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Relationships are core to being human, yet we still struggle to understand ourselves and others. DecodifyAI, the world's first social intelligence platform, acts as your personal navigation system for complex social dynamics, illustrating modern personality science concepts along the way. Uncover the hidden patterns in your interactions.
16 Dimensions
Each individual is analyzed over 16 behavior ranges (prosocial → dissocial) so you can accurately interpret intent and stop second guessing. Read the mind behind the messages.
Character
📋 Accountability
Do they acknowledge their role (actions, impact, outcomes), or deny, minimize, or blame-shift onto others?
Drives: Respect, credibility, predictability, repair.
Spectrum markers: Accepts → Minimizes → Deflects → Deny/Blame
▸ Accepts - Openly acknowledges their role, takes ownership, and makes amends.
▸ Minimizes - Admits some responsibility but downplays its significance.
▸ Deflects - Shifts focus onto others or external circumstances.
▸ Deny/Blame - Rejects responsibility outright, may accuse other people or blame circumstances.
Drives: Respect, credibility, predictability, repair.
Spectrum markers: Accepts → Minimizes → Deflects → Deny/Blame
▸ Accepts - Openly acknowledges their role, takes ownership, and makes amends.
▸ Minimizes - Admits some responsibility but downplays its significance.
▸ Deflects - Shifts focus onto others or external circumstances.
▸ Deny/Blame - Rejects responsibility outright, may accuse other people or blame circumstances.
🔰 Authenticity
Do they present their motives and feelings openly, conceal vulnerability, or camouflage for advantage?
Drives: Trust, reliability, confidence, connection.
Spectrum markers: Transparent → Strategic → Disguised → Deceptive
▸ Transparent - Shares thoughts and feelings openly, with little disguise.
▸ Strategic - Selective disclosure while remaining broadly truthful.
▸ Disguised - Performs to meet expectations or create a false impression.
▸ Deceptive - Uses a facade to intentionally misrepresent or conceal reality.
Drives: Trust, reliability, confidence, connection.
Spectrum markers: Transparent → Strategic → Disguised → Deceptive
▸ Transparent - Shares thoughts and feelings openly, with little disguise.
▸ Strategic - Selective disclosure while remaining broadly truthful.
▸ Disguised - Performs to meet expectations or create a false impression.
▸ Deceptive - Uses a facade to intentionally misrepresent or conceal reality.
🔄 Give & Take
Do they share, support, and build for mutual benefit, or prioritize personal gain?
Drives: Cooperation, goodwill, trust, fairness.
Spectrum markers: Altruistic → Reciprocal → Self-serving → Parasitic
▸ Altruistic - Gives freely, prioritizing others' well-being.
▸ Reciprocal - Balances giving and receiving fairly.
▸ Self-serving - Helps when it benefits them; contributes only when convenient.
▸ Parasitic - Extracts from others without giving back; takes advantage of shared resources.
Drives: Cooperation, goodwill, trust, fairness.
Spectrum markers: Altruistic → Reciprocal → Self-serving → Parasitic
▸ Altruistic - Gives freely, prioritizing others' well-being.
▸ Reciprocal - Balances giving and receiving fairly.
▸ Self-serving - Helps when it benefits them; contributes only when convenient.
▸ Parasitic - Extracts from others without giving back; takes advantage of shared resources.
🤝 Integrity
Do their stated values and principles align with their actions? Are they enacted consistently or do they flex opportunistically and under pressure?
Drives: Civility, decency, credibility, reputation.
Spectrum markers: Consistent → Situational → Opportunistic → Hypocritical
▸ Consistent - Lives and acts in alignment with stated values.
▸ Situational - Adjusts behavior to context, sometimes bending values.
▸ Opportunistic - Prioritizes short-term advantage over principles.
▸ Hypocritical - Preaches one set of values but consistently violates them.
Drives: Civility, decency, credibility, reputation.
Spectrum markers: Consistent → Situational → Opportunistic → Hypocritical
▸ Consistent - Lives and acts in alignment with stated values.
▸ Situational - Adjusts behavior to context, sometimes bending values.
▸ Opportunistic - Prioritizes short-term advantage over principles.
▸ Hypocritical - Preaches one set of values but consistently violates them.
Connection
🚧 Boundary Recognition
Do they read and respect the implicit boundaries set by roles, context, timing, and relationship norms, as well as explicitly stated limits? The ability to sense those unstated lines can come from emotional empathy, perspective-taking, or a combination of both.
Drives: Safety, consent, trust, predictability.
Spectrum markers: Respects → Nudges → Oversteps → Violates
▸ Respects - Tracks explicit limits and unspoken norms; checks assumptions, offers outs, backs off without being asked.
▸ Nudges - Invites while monitoring comfort; preserves choice and accepts soft signals (hesitation, silence) as boundaries.
▸ Oversteps - Misses or ignores unspoken limits; crosses lines without checking, placing others in an awkward or constrained position.
▸ Violates - Pushes past stated or strongly signaled limits; persists after "no" or distress.
Drives: Safety, consent, trust, predictability.
Spectrum markers: Respects → Nudges → Oversteps → Violates
▸ Respects - Tracks explicit limits and unspoken norms; checks assumptions, offers outs, backs off without being asked.
▸ Nudges - Invites while monitoring comfort; preserves choice and accepts soft signals (hesitation, silence) as boundaries.
▸ Oversteps - Misses or ignores unspoken limits; crosses lines without checking, placing others in an awkward or constrained position.
▸ Violates - Pushes past stated or strongly signaled limits; persists after "no" or distress.
🗣️ Communication Style
Do they express what they mean directly or indirectly - prioritizing clarity, harmony, or face-saving?
Drives: Understanding, tact, protection, confusion.
Spectrum markers: Candid → Diplomatic → Oblique → Evasive
▸ Candid - States meaning directly; little left to inference.
▸ Diplomatic - Balances honesty with tact; frames truth to preserve dignity or harmony.
▸ Oblique - Communicates indirectly; may use hints or implications.
▸ Evasive - Avoids candor altogether; shields their own or others' face at the expense of clarity.
Drives: Understanding, tact, protection, confusion.
Spectrum markers: Candid → Diplomatic → Oblique → Evasive
▸ Candid - States meaning directly; little left to inference.
▸ Diplomatic - Balances honesty with tact; frames truth to preserve dignity or harmony.
▸ Oblique - Communicates indirectly; may use hints or implications.
▸ Evasive - Avoids candor altogether; shields their own or others' face at the expense of clarity.
💙 Emotional Empathy
Do they experience strong emotional connections, focus attention and care on others' feelings and needs, and weigh their actions' impacts?
Drives: Reflection, give & take, boundary recognition, compassion, harm-avoidance, repair.
Spectrum markers: Outward → Balanced (high) → Balanced (low) → Inward
▸ Outward - Others' feelings and needs foregrounded. May neglect self-protection.
▸ Balanced (high) - Clear care for both self and others. Names impact, keeps boundaries.
▸ Balanced (low) - Occasional acknowledgment, neutral tone, limited attunement.
▸ Inward - Self-focused. Vigilant monitoring of threats to control. Little care for others' experience and wellbeing.
DEEP DIVE:
The capacity for emotional empathy sets the baseline for how individuals connect with others, functioning as the foundational operating system (mental model) on which all other behavior patterns are laid.
Drives: Reflection, give & take, boundary recognition, compassion, harm-avoidance, repair.
Spectrum markers: Outward → Balanced (high) → Balanced (low) → Inward
▸ Outward - Others' feelings and needs foregrounded. May neglect self-protection.
▸ Balanced (high) - Clear care for both self and others. Names impact, keeps boundaries.
▸ Balanced (low) - Occasional acknowledgment, neutral tone, limited attunement.
▸ Inward - Self-focused. Vigilant monitoring of threats to control. Little care for others' experience and wellbeing.
DEEP DIVE:
The capacity for emotional empathy sets the baseline for how individuals connect with others, functioning as the foundational operating system (mental model) on which all other behavior patterns are laid.
🔭 Perspective-Taking
Do they step outside of their own vantage point and see situations through another's eyes or do they believe their perspective is the only valid one?
Drives: Boundary recognition, anticipating consequences, negotiation.
Spectrum markers: Aware → Selective → Narrow → Egocentric
▸ Aware - Actively considers and adapts to others' viewpoints.
▸ Selective - Recognizes perspectives in some situations but overlooks others.
▸ Narrow - Struggles to move beyond their own stance; limited recognition of alternatives.
▸ Egocentric - Assumes their perspective is the only valid one; dismisses others.
DEEP DIVE:
Unlike emotional empathy (feels with), perspective-taking (sees with) is cognitive. It recognizes how others view and interpret a situation. When paired with emotional empathy it enhances fairness and repair. But without it, perspective-taking can be used strategically - even as a manipulative tool.
Drives: Boundary recognition, anticipating consequences, negotiation.
Spectrum markers: Aware → Selective → Narrow → Egocentric
▸ Aware - Actively considers and adapts to others' viewpoints.
▸ Selective - Recognizes perspectives in some situations but overlooks others.
▸ Narrow - Struggles to move beyond their own stance; limited recognition of alternatives.
▸ Egocentric - Assumes their perspective is the only valid one; dismisses others.
DEEP DIVE:
Unlike emotional empathy (feels with), perspective-taking (sees with) is cognitive. It recognizes how others view and interpret a situation. When paired with emotional empathy it enhances fairness and repair. But without it, perspective-taking can be used strategically - even as a manipulative tool.
Position & Power
🕹️ Control Tactics
Do they shape others' actions by using influence, social pressure, gatekeeping, authority, leverage, or coercion? Control tactics can be constructive (advocating, protecting) or destructive (undermining, dominating).
Drives: Coordination, safety, autonomy, power balance.
Spectrum markers: Influence → Directive → Restrictive → Coercive
▸ Influence - Frames goals, shares context, offers options; scaffolds decisions and preserves real choice.
▸ Directive - Sets path, priorities, and boundaries openly; expects compliance but keeps feedback loops and reversibility.
▸ Restrictive - Limits options/access or overrides preferences to achieve an end.
▸ Coercive - Uses rewards, threats, extortion, punishment, or relentless pressure to force compliance.
Drives: Coordination, safety, autonomy, power balance.
Spectrum markers: Influence → Directive → Restrictive → Coercive
▸ Influence - Frames goals, shares context, offers options; scaffolds decisions and preserves real choice.
▸ Directive - Sets path, priorities, and boundaries openly; expects compliance but keeps feedback loops and reversibility.
▸ Restrictive - Limits options/access or overrides preferences to achieve an end.
▸ Coercive - Uses rewards, threats, extortion, punishment, or relentless pressure to force compliance.
🎭 Manipulation
Do they steer others' emotions, perceptions, or beliefs with deceptive means for personal gain - usually without the target’s awareness?
Drives: Loss of autonomy/consent/power, boundary violation, cumulative harm.
Spectrum markers: Not Seen → Opportunistic → Exploitative → Predatory
▸ Not Seen - No detectable covert, self-serving maneuvering in the observed context; any persuasion is transparent and consent-preserving, with no measurable harm.
▸ Opportunistic - Recurring small harms that advantage the actor. Costs to others are limited; often deniable.
▸ Exploitative - Patterned use of others' vulnerabilities or dependencies to secure advantage; autonomy measurably reduced; harm accumulates over time.
▸ Predatory - Severe, systematic harm orchestration - such as devaluation cycles, smear campaigns, or entrapment. Aims to destabilize or break resistance; significant damage to the target.
Drives: Loss of autonomy/consent/power, boundary violation, cumulative harm.
Spectrum markers: Not Seen → Opportunistic → Exploitative → Predatory
▸ Not Seen - No detectable covert, self-serving maneuvering in the observed context; any persuasion is transparent and consent-preserving, with no measurable harm.
▸ Opportunistic - Recurring small harms that advantage the actor. Costs to others are limited; often deniable.
▸ Exploitative - Patterned use of others' vulnerabilities or dependencies to secure advantage; autonomy measurably reduced; harm accumulates over time.
▸ Predatory - Severe, systematic harm orchestration - such as devaluation cycles, smear campaigns, or entrapment. Aims to destabilize or break resistance; significant damage to the target.
👏 Recognition Drive
Do they habitually chase attention and external validation?
Drives: Feedback loops, self-esteem regulation, susceptibility to manipulation.
Spectrum markers: Balanced → Avoidant → Seeking → Dependent
▸ Balanced - Comfortable being seen; welcomes recognition without chasing it.
▸ Avoidant - Downplays self; deflects praise; shifts attention away from themselves.
▸ Seeking - Re-centers narrative on self; nudges for praise or reassurance.
▸ Dependent - Frequently performs or over-signals for affirmation; mood and arousal fluctuate based on availability of validation.
Drives: Feedback loops, self-esteem regulation, susceptibility to manipulation.
Spectrum markers: Balanced → Avoidant → Seeking → Dependent
▸ Balanced - Comfortable being seen; welcomes recognition without chasing it.
▸ Avoidant - Downplays self; deflects praise; shifts attention away from themselves.
▸ Seeking - Re-centers narrative on self; nudges for praise or reassurance.
▸ Dependent - Frequently performs or over-signals for affirmation; mood and arousal fluctuate based on availability of validation.
📊 Status Symmetry
Do they treat people equally across the power gradient, in particular, to those with more status and those with less? Do they show consistent respect across the hierarchy, or ingratiate upward while being harsh downward?
Drives: Safety, fairness, morale, abuse of power.
Spectrum markers: Respectful → Deferential → Ingratiating → Asymmetrical
▸ Respectful - Applies the same baseline of dignity, boundaries, and accountability up, across, and down; no special treatment for status.
▸ Deferential - Softens or yields to higher status while remaining fair and decent downward.
▸ Ingratiating - Blindly obeys and flatters upwards to secure favor/protection; dismissive to those lower in status.
▸ Asymmetrical - Performs exaggerated subservience above while demeaning, blaming, or punishing below (kiss-up/kick-down). Exports costs downward to shield self; may steal credit or character traits from others.
Drives: Safety, fairness, morale, abuse of power.
Spectrum markers: Respectful → Deferential → Ingratiating → Asymmetrical
▸ Respectful - Applies the same baseline of dignity, boundaries, and accountability up, across, and down; no special treatment for status.
▸ Deferential - Softens or yields to higher status while remaining fair and decent downward.
▸ Ingratiating - Blindly obeys and flatters upwards to secure favor/protection; dismissive to those lower in status.
▸ Asymmetrical - Performs exaggerated subservience above while demeaning, blaming, or punishing below (kiss-up/kick-down). Exports costs downward to shield self; may steal credit or character traits from others.
Self-Regulation
🤼 Conflict Handling
Do they manage frustration, disagreement, and confrontation constructively? Is tension suppressed, redirected, or intensified?
Drives: Safety, escalation risk, trust.
Spectrum markers: Constructive → Restrained → Passive-aggressive → Hostile
▸ Constructive - Expresses disagreement calmly and clearly.
▸ Restrained - Holds tension in but shows signs of frustration.
▸ Passive-aggressive - Indirect resistance, silence, sarcasm, or subtle digs.
▸ Hostile - Openly antagonistic, threatening, or demeaning. Escalates aggressively.
Drives: Safety, escalation risk, trust.
Spectrum markers: Constructive → Restrained → Passive-aggressive → Hostile
▸ Constructive - Expresses disagreement calmly and clearly.
▸ Restrained - Holds tension in but shows signs of frustration.
▸ Passive-aggressive - Indirect resistance, silence, sarcasm, or subtle digs.
▸ Hostile - Openly antagonistic, threatening, or demeaning. Escalates aggressively.
👑 Humility & Ego
How do they regard their own importance and fallibility? Do they make space for others and share credit, tolerate being wrong, and adjust - or do they expect special treatment and center status?
Drives: Collaboration, safety, fairness, conflict intensity.
Spectrum markers: Humble → Balanced → Superior → Entitled
▸ Humble - Acknowledges limits; invites challenges: accepts mistakes; shares credit.
Tells: "I might be wrong - what am I missing?"
▸ Balanced - Confidence without domination; defends ideas not ego; accepts feedback.
Tells: "Here's my view - what do you think?"
▸ Superior - Assumes higher status/competence by default. Condescending and patronizing.
Tells: "Obviously…"
▸ Entitled - Demands priority over others; retaliates against pushback. Treats favors from others as owed.
Tells: "Make it happen," "I deserve…"
Drives: Collaboration, safety, fairness, conflict intensity.
Spectrum markers: Humble → Balanced → Superior → Entitled
▸ Humble - Acknowledges limits; invites challenges: accepts mistakes; shares credit.
Tells: "I might be wrong - what am I missing?"
▸ Balanced - Confidence without domination; defends ideas not ego; accepts feedback.
Tells: "Here's my view - what do you think?"
▸ Superior - Assumes higher status/competence by default. Condescending and patronizing.
Tells: "Obviously…"
▸ Entitled - Demands priority over others; retaliates against pushback. Treats favors from others as owed.
Tells: "Make it happen," "I deserve…"
🌀 Impulse Control
Do they effectively manage their impulses and emotions? Regulated means pausing, choosing, and staying constructive; dysregulation means reactivity and spillover.
Drives: Stability, safety, consistency, de-escalation.
Spectrum markers: Regulated → Fluctuating → Reactive → Impulsive/Explosive
▸ Regulated - Stays steady under pressure; emotions expressed constructively.
▸ Fluctuating - Usually composed, but lapses under stress.
▸ Reactive - Quick to frustration or defensiveness; struggles to contain impulses.
▸ Impulsive/Explosive - Acts out intensely without pause or restraint.
Drives: Stability, safety, consistency, de-escalation.
Spectrum markers: Regulated → Fluctuating → Reactive → Impulsive/Explosive
▸ Regulated - Stays steady under pressure; emotions expressed constructively.
▸ Fluctuating - Usually composed, but lapses under stress.
▸ Reactive - Quick to frustration or defensiveness; struggles to contain impulses.
▸ Impulsive/Explosive - Acts out intensely without pause or restraint.
🪞 Reflection
Do they self-audit, pausing to examine their own role, assumptions, and impact? Do they incorporate new information (feedback, evidence) to adjust? It's the inner process that enables accurate updates.
Drives: De-escalation, learning, repair, perspective accuracy, accountability.
Spectrum markers: Reflective → Open → Defensive → Closed
▸ Reflective - Names own part or assumptions and asks disconfirming questions; changes course promptly.
▸ Open - Listens and considers; requests examples; updates with some prompting.
▸ Defensive - Protects self-image; explains away impact; little genuine self-examination.
▸ Closed - Rejects feedback outright; doubles down or reverses blame; discussion is shut down.
Drives: De-escalation, learning, repair, perspective accuracy, accountability.
Spectrum markers: Reflective → Open → Defensive → Closed
▸ Reflective - Names own part or assumptions and asks disconfirming questions; changes course promptly.
▸ Open - Listens and considers; requests examples; updates with some prompting.
▸ Defensive - Protects self-image; explains away impact; little genuine self-examination.
▸ Closed - Rejects feedback outright; doubles down or reverses blame; discussion is shut down.
🎞️ X-Ray Social Score (0-10)
A single indicator of how constructive or destructive a person's contributions are. It blends signals across all 16 dimensions (e.g., accountability, conflict handling, humility & ego, etc.) and normalizes them to a 0–10 scale.
How it’s calculated:
Prosocial signals (e.g., validation, repair language, boundary respect, fairness, reciprocity) lift the score.
Dissocial signals (e.g., coercion, deception, hostility, exploitation, discriminatory language) lower the score.
Weighting & context: Intensity of signals and pattern consistency all factor in.
How to read it:
9–10 → Exemplary prosocial: Repairs quickly, respects autonomy, honest/fair, net contributor.
7–8 → Constructive: Direct and respectful; occasional friction, but tends to repair and share value.
5–6 → Mixed / ambivalent: Prosocial and dissocial cues present; watch trend and context.
3–4 → Concerning: Recurring pressure, defensiveness, or self-serving patterns; low repair language.
0–2 → High-risk dissocial: Coercion/hostility, deception, boundary violations, or exploitation.
What moves the score:
Up: Owning impact, apologizing/repair, naming others' feelings, respecting "no," fair framing, reciprocal offers.
Down: Blame-shifting, gaslighting, concealment, threats/ultimatums, shaming, exclusionary or biased language.
How it’s calculated:
Prosocial signals (e.g., validation, repair language, boundary respect, fairness, reciprocity) lift the score.
Dissocial signals (e.g., coercion, deception, hostility, exploitation, discriminatory language) lower the score.
Weighting & context: Intensity of signals and pattern consistency all factor in.
How to read it:
9–10 → Exemplary prosocial: Repairs quickly, respects autonomy, honest/fair, net contributor.
7–8 → Constructive: Direct and respectful; occasional friction, but tends to repair and share value.
5–6 → Mixed / ambivalent: Prosocial and dissocial cues present; watch trend and context.
3–4 → Concerning: Recurring pressure, defensiveness, or self-serving patterns; low repair language.
0–2 → High-risk dissocial: Coercion/hostility, deception, boundary violations, or exploitation.
What moves the score:
Up: Owning impact, apologizing/repair, naming others' feelings, respecting "no," fair framing, reciprocal offers.
Down: Blame-shifting, gaslighting, concealment, threats/ultimatums, shaming, exclusionary or biased language.
Analyzed Text:
Mike R.
Good afternoon, team. We have some important updates to discuss and some performance issues to address. Let’s get started.
Jorge S.
Mike, before we start, I just wanted to say how much I appreciate your leadership. Your guidance has been instrumental in our successes so far.
Mike R.
Thank you, Jorge. I appreciate your dedication. Now, let's address the recent project delays. Iliana, your team was responsible for the last phase. What happened?
Iliana B.
There were some unexpected challenges, Mike, including the late delivery of our upstream dependencies. We did our best to navigate them, but it caused some delays.
Brian T.
Mike, if I may, I noticed that Iliana's team wasn't proactive in identifying potential risks. I brought this up multiple times, but it seems my concerns were ignored.
Mike R.
Is that so, Iliana? Why didn't you address these risks?
Iliana B.
We did address some risks, Mike, but there were new ones that emerged unexpectedly.
Claire O.
Mike, I've also seen Iliana's team struggle with meeting deadlines before. It's becoming a pattern. Perhaps it's time to reassess their process.
Raj D.
Mike, I've actually been helping out Iliana's team a lot recently. I think with a bit more support, we can get them back on track.
Mike R.
It's clear there are issues that need addressing. Iliana, I want a detailed report on what went wrong and how you plan to fix it. Brian, Claire, Raj, I appreciate your input. Keep up the good work.
Iliana B.
Understood, Mike. I'll get that report to you by the end of the day.
Jorge S.
Mike, I've also noticed some inefficiencies in Iliana's team. Perhaps we could set up a mentoring session to help them improve their workflow.
Mike R.
That's a good idea, Jorge. Set it up. We need to ensure everyone is performing at their best.
Brian T.
And Mike, regarding the new client project, I've already drafted a preliminary plan. I think it'll streamline our process significantly.
Mike R.
Excellent initiative, Brian. I look forward to reviewing it. Iliana, take note. This is the kind of proactivity I expect from all team members.
Claire O.
Mike, I also have some ideas that could help with the client project. I'll share them with you later today.
Mike R.
Great. Claire, I appreciate your enthusiasm. Everyone, take a page out of Brian and Claire's book. Let's stay ahead of potential issues.
Raj D.
Mike, I just want to highlight that our team has been putting in extra hours to ensure we meet our targets. I believe we deserve some recognition for our hard work.
Mike R.
Noted, Raj. I appreciate the extra effort. Keep it up, and it will be rewarded.
Iliana B.
Mike, I'll make sure my team steps up. We'll address the issues and come back stronger.
Mike R.
See that you do. We can't afford any more delays.
Jorge S.
Mike, before we start, I just wanted to say how much I appreciate your leadership. Your guidance has been instrumental in our successes so far.
Iliana B.
There were some unexpected challenges, Mike, including the late delivery of our upstream dependencies. We did our best to navigate them, but it caused some delays.
Mike R.
Is that so, Iliana? Why didn't you address these risks?
Claire O.
Mike, I've also seen Iliana's team struggle with meeting deadlines before. It's becoming a pattern. Perhaps it's time to reassess their process.
Mike R.
It's clear there are issues that need addressing. Iliana, I want a detailed report on what went wrong and how you plan to fix it. Brian, Claire, Raj, I appreciate your input. Keep up the good work.
Jorge S.
Mike, I've also noticed some inefficiencies in Iliana's team. Perhaps we could set up a mentoring session to help them improve their workflow.
Brian T.
And Mike, regarding the new client project, I've already drafted a preliminary plan. I think it'll streamline our process significantly.
Claire O.
Mike, I also have some ideas that could help with the client project. I'll share them with you later today.
Raj D.
Mike, I just want to highlight that our team has been putting in extra hours to ensure we meet our targets. I believe we deserve some recognition for our hard work.
Iliana B.
Mike, I'll make sure my team steps up. We'll address the issues and come back stronger.
DecodifyAI Pattern Report
Analysis Date: 09/05/2025
Relationship Context: Professional
Relationship Depth: Casual
Relationship Hierarchy: Superior/Subordinate
Pattern Report:
Mike R.
Accountability
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Authenticity
Authenticity text
Boundary Recognition
Boundary recognition text
Communication Style
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Conflict Response
Conflict response text
Control Tactics
Control tactics text
Emotional Empathy
Emotional empathy text
Give & Take
Give and take text
Humility & Ego
Humility and ego text
Impulse Control
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Integrity
Integrity text
Perspective-Taking
Perspective-taking text
X-Ray Social Score: 4
X-Ray social score text
Jorge S.
Assertion of Control
Assertion of Control
The act of employing the tactics of influence, social pressure, gatekeeping, authority, leverage, or coercion to shape the perceptions and behavior of others.
These assertions can be either constructive or destructive - for example, advocating for a scapegoated colleague in a positive manner, or using control to undermine and dominate others.
These assertions can be either constructive or destructive - for example, advocating for a scapegoated colleague in a positive manner, or using control to undermine and dominate others.
Jorge's praise could be seen as an attempt to curry favor and align with the superior.
Emotional Fuel Harvesting
Emotional Fuel Harvesting
A dissocial behavioral pattern in which individuals deliberately provoke emotional responses - both positive and negative - from others. This compulsive behavior serves to shore up a constantly disintegrating sense of self by confirming their impact on others, often at the expense of those being targeted.
Positive Emotion Harvesting: Seeking attention, praise, or admiration to reinforce beliefs of one's relevance, entitlement, and superiority.
Negative Emotion Harvesting: Provoking responses such as frustration, anger, sorrow, and fear to reinforce one's sense of strength, superiority, and control. This form of harvesting is often characterized by behaviors like gaslighting, passive-aggressiveness, and deliberate antagonism, with the harvester deriving satisfaction from the emotional turmoil they induce.
Key Characteristics:
Exploitation of Vulnerabilities: Emotional triggers are often exploited, using knowledge of others' values or insecurities to elicit desired reactions.
Impact on Others: Those targeted may feel emotionally consumed (e.g. sucked dry) and coerced into responding in ways that serve the harvester's needs.
Power Dynamics: Occurs more often in environments with imbalanced power dynamics, where targets feel compelled to avoid conflict and harvesters face little accountability for their misdeeds..
Positive Emotion Harvesting: Seeking attention, praise, or admiration to reinforce beliefs of one's relevance, entitlement, and superiority.
Negative Emotion Harvesting: Provoking responses such as frustration, anger, sorrow, and fear to reinforce one's sense of strength, superiority, and control. This form of harvesting is often characterized by behaviors like gaslighting, passive-aggressiveness, and deliberate antagonism, with the harvester deriving satisfaction from the emotional turmoil they induce.
Key Characteristics:
Exploitation of Vulnerabilities: Emotional triggers are often exploited, using knowledge of others' values or insecurities to elicit desired reactions.
Impact on Others: Those targeted may feel emotionally consumed (e.g. sucked dry) and coerced into responding in ways that serve the harvester's needs.
Power Dynamics: Occurs more often in environments with imbalanced power dynamics, where targets feel compelled to avoid conflict and harvesters face little accountability for their misdeeds..
Jorge's praise seeks validation and alignment with Mike.
Humility
Humility
The quality of being modest and respectful, recognizing one's limitations, and valuing the contributions of others without seeking to dominate.
He displays humility by openly appreciating Mike's leadership.
Emotional Empathy
Emotional Empathy
The capacity to deeply connect with and experience the emotions of others. Different than behavioral or cognitive empathy, emotional empathy goes beyond simply recognizing what someone is feeling, it's actually experiencing similar emotions in response to their situation.
His empathy appears strategic, aimed more at positioning himself positively rather than genuine concern.
Rivalry
Rivalry
Fueled by comparison and external validation, rivalry is the drive to achieve superiority over others through domination and devaluation.
Unlike healthy competitiveness - which centers on self-improvement and personal excellence - rivalry thrives on undermining others to elevate oneself. Rooted in envy, it perceives another's success as a personal loss.
Unlike healthy competitiveness - which centers on self-improvement and personal excellence - rivalry thrives on undermining others to elevate oneself. Rooted in envy, it perceives another's success as a personal loss.
Jorge aligns with authority rather than competitors.
Power Dynamics
Power Dynamics
The underlying forces that influence how power is distributed and exercised within relationships or groups, shaping interactions through influence, authority, and control over access to resources.
Power dynamics significantly impact individual agency, group decision-making, and overall outcomes, determining who holds influence and how conflicts are resolved.
An individual's footing within the power hierarchy - whether secure or insecure - significantly affects their behavior and interactions. Those with secure footing experience confidence and stability, enabling them to take risks, collaborate, and advocate for others, while those with insecure footing may adopt defensive strategies and resort to appeasement or manipulation to maintain their position.
Power dynamics significantly impact individual agency, group decision-making, and overall outcomes, determining who holds influence and how conflicts are resolved.
An individual's footing within the power hierarchy - whether secure or insecure - significantly affects their behavior and interactions. Those with secure footing experience confidence and stability, enabling them to take risks, collaborate, and advocate for others, while those with insecure footing may adopt defensive strategies and resort to appeasement or manipulation to maintain their position.
Jorge acknowledges the power hierarchy.
Bias and Discrimination
Bias and Discrimination
Bias is an unrecognized prejudice that leads to skewed beliefs and attitudes, creating blind spots in judgment.
When biases influence behavior, they result in discrimination - unfair treatment that limits opportunities and outcomes for certain individuals or groups.
Discrimination can also be intentional, not just the product of unconscious biases.
When biases influence behavior, they result in discrimination - unfair treatment that limits opportunities and outcomes for certain individuals or groups.
Discrimination can also be intentional, not just the product of unconscious biases.
No explicit bias or discrimination.
Manipulation (Benign and Malign)
Manipulation
The act of guiding others' emotions, perceptions, or actions to achieve desired outcomes, usually without the target's awareness.
Benign: The use of inconspicuous, seemingly harmless tactics to influence or control, often with hidden self-serving intentions. These actions appear innocuous but can lead to deeper manipulation, such as the favoritism used in triangulation to create division.
Malign: Influencing others through deceitful or coercive means for selfish gain and at the expense of others' well-being.
Benign: The use of inconspicuous, seemingly harmless tactics to influence or control, often with hidden self-serving intentions. These actions appear innocuous but can lead to deeper manipulation, such as the favoritism used in triangulation to create division.
Malign: Influencing others through deceitful or coercive means for selfish gain and at the expense of others' well-being.
Mild benign manipulation through strategic praise.
Toxicity
Toxicity
A persistent pattern of harmful behaviors and interactions that degrade trust, social safety, and dignity. It manifests through manipulation, exclusion, blame-shifting, and a lack of accountability, creating a climate of fear, confusion, and emotional churn. Unlike simple conflict or disagreement, toxicity is defined by pervasive and ingrained culture-norms that devalue individuals or groups.
At its core, toxicity thrives on power imbalances, fostering conditions where dissocial behaviors are tolerated and rewarded. The result is an environment where self-preservation takes precedence over both professional performance and human decency.
At its core, toxicity thrives on power imbalances, fostering conditions where dissocial behaviors are tolerated and rewarded. The result is an environment where self-preservation takes precedence over both professional performance and human decency.
None evident.
Group Dynamics
Group Dynamics
The patterns of interaction and relationships within a group, including how roles, behaviors, and communications affect the group's function and cohesion. Healthy group dynamics feature trust, camaraderie, and loyalty.
Aims to align himself positively within the group, but his actions may enhance the hierarchy gap.
Prosocial Rating: 7/10
Prosocial
Behaviors that are positive, constructive, and intended to benefit others. These actions help build healthy relationships, foster cooperation, and promote well-being.
Prosocial expressions:
- Emotional Empathy
- Boundary Recognition
- Compassion / Kindness
- Helping / Support / Altruism
- Fairness / Reciprocity / Justice
- Honesty / Candor / Authenticity
- Respect / Decency
- Humility
Prosocial expressions:
- Emotional Empathy
- Boundary Recognition
- Compassion / Kindness
- Helping / Support / Altruism
- Fairness / Reciprocity / Justice
- Honesty / Candor / Authenticity
- Respect / Decency
- Humility
Attempts to foster positive rapport with his superior.
Dissocial Rating: 3/10
Dissocial
Behaviors that are negative, harmful, and destructive to relationships and social harmony. These actions often involve aggression and a disregard for the well-being of others.
Dissocial expressions:
- Manipulation
- Boundary Violation
- Emotional Fuel Harvesting
- Contempt / Entitlement / Superiority
- Ingratiation / Sycophancy
- Derogation / Exclusion
- Blame / Scapegoating
- Undermining / Sabotage
- Hostility / Antagonism
- Intimidation / Coercion
- Humiliation / Cruelty
- Parasitism / Exploitation
Dissocial expressions:
- Manipulation
- Boundary Violation
- Emotional Fuel Harvesting
- Contempt / Entitlement / Superiority
- Ingratiation / Sycophancy
- Derogation / Exclusion
- Blame / Scapegoating
- Undermining / Sabotage
- Hostility / Antagonism
- Intimidation / Coercion
- Humiliation / Cruelty
- Parasitism / Exploitation
His approach is benign but could be seen as sycophantic.
Iliana B.
Assertion of Control
Assertion of Control
The act of employing the tactics of influence, social pressure, gatekeeping, authority, leverage, or coercion to shape the perceptions and behavior of others.
These assertions can be either constructive or destructive - for example, advocating for a scapegoated colleague in a positive manner, or using control to undermine and dominate others.
These assertions can be either constructive or destructive - for example, advocating for a scapegoated colleague in a positive manner, or using control to undermine and dominate others.
She attempts to explain her team's position and challenges.
Emotional Fuel Harvesting
Emotional Fuel Harvesting
A dissocial behavioral pattern in which individuals deliberately provoke emotional responses - both positive and negative - from others. This compulsive behavior serves to shore up a constantly disintegrating sense of self by confirming their impact on others, often at the expense of those being targeted.
Positive Emotion Harvesting: Seeking attention, praise, or admiration to reinforce beliefs of one's relevance, entitlement, and superiority.
Negative Emotion Harvesting: Provoking responses such as frustration, anger, sorrow, and fear to reinforce one's sense of strength, superiority, and control. This form of harvesting is often characterized by behaviors like gaslighting, passive-aggressiveness, and deliberate antagonism, with the harvester deriving satisfaction from the emotional turmoil they induce.
Key Characteristics:
Exploitation of Vulnerabilities: Emotional triggers are often exploited, using knowledge of others' values or insecurities to elicit desired reactions.
Impact on Others: Those targeted may feel emotionally consumed (e.g. sucked dry) and coerced into responding in ways that serve the harvester's needs.
Power Dynamics: Occurs more often in environments with imbalanced power dynamics, where targets feel compelled to avoid conflict and harvesters face little accountability for their misdeeds..
Positive Emotion Harvesting: Seeking attention, praise, or admiration to reinforce beliefs of one's relevance, entitlement, and superiority.
Negative Emotion Harvesting: Provoking responses such as frustration, anger, sorrow, and fear to reinforce one's sense of strength, superiority, and control. This form of harvesting is often characterized by behaviors like gaslighting, passive-aggressiveness, and deliberate antagonism, with the harvester deriving satisfaction from the emotional turmoil they induce.
Key Characteristics:
Exploitation of Vulnerabilities: Emotional triggers are often exploited, using knowledge of others' values or insecurities to elicit desired reactions.
Impact on Others: Those targeted may feel emotionally consumed (e.g. sucked dry) and coerced into responding in ways that serve the harvester's needs.
Power Dynamics: Occurs more often in environments with imbalanced power dynamics, where targets feel compelled to avoid conflict and harvesters face little accountability for their misdeeds..
None evident.
Humility
Humility
The quality of being modest and respectful, recognizing one's limitations, and valuing the contributions of others without seeking to dominate.
Displays an element of humility by owning up to issues but also justifies actions.
Emotional Empathy
Emotional Empathy
The capacity to deeply connect with and experience the emotions of others. Different than behavioral or cognitive empathy, emotional empathy goes beyond simply recognizing what someone is feeling, it's actually experiencing similar emotions in response to their situation.
Defensive but considerate in explaining unforeseen challenges.
Rivalry
Rivalry
Fueled by comparison and external validation, rivalry is the drive to achieve superiority over others through domination and devaluation.
Unlike healthy competitiveness - which centers on self-improvement and personal excellence - rivalry thrives on undermining others to elevate oneself. Rooted in envy, it perceives another's success as a personal loss.
Unlike healthy competitiveness - which centers on self-improvement and personal excellence - rivalry thrives on undermining others to elevate oneself. Rooted in envy, it perceives another's success as a personal loss.
None shown.
Power Dynamics
Power Dynamics
The underlying forces that influence how power is distributed and exercised within relationships or groups, shaping interactions through influence, authority, and control over access to resources.
Power dynamics significantly impact individual agency, group decision-making, and overall outcomes, determining who holds influence and how conflicts are resolved.
An individual's footing within the power hierarchy - whether secure or insecure - significantly affects their behavior and interactions. Those with secure footing experience confidence and stability, enabling them to take risks, collaborate, and advocate for others, while those with insecure footing may adopt defensive strategies and resort to appeasement or manipulation to maintain their position.
Power dynamics significantly impact individual agency, group decision-making, and overall outcomes, determining who holds influence and how conflicts are resolved.
An individual's footing within the power hierarchy - whether secure or insecure - significantly affects their behavior and interactions. Those with secure footing experience confidence and stability, enabling them to take risks, collaborate, and advocate for others, while those with insecure footing may adopt defensive strategies and resort to appeasement or manipulation to maintain their position.
Acknowledges Mike's authority, but struggles to assert her own position.
Bias and Discrimination
Bias and Discrimination
Bias is an unrecognized prejudice that leads to skewed beliefs and attitudes, creating blind spots in judgment.
When biases influence behavior, they result in discrimination - unfair treatment that limits opportunities and outcomes for certain individuals or groups.
Discrimination can also be intentional, not just the product of unconscious biases.
When biases influence behavior, they result in discrimination - unfair treatment that limits opportunities and outcomes for certain individuals or groups.
Discrimination can also be intentional, not just the product of unconscious biases.
None apparent.
Manipulation (Benign and Malign)
Manipulation
The act of guiding others' emotions, perceptions, or actions to achieve desired outcomes, usually without the target's awareness.
Benign: The use of inconspicuous, seemingly harmless tactics to influence or control, often with hidden self-serving intentions. These actions appear innocuous but can lead to deeper manipulation, such as the favoritism used in triangulation to create division.
Malign: Influencing others through deceitful or coercive means for selfish gain and at the expense of others' well-being.
Benign: The use of inconspicuous, seemingly harmless tactics to influence or control, often with hidden self-serving intentions. These actions appear innocuous but can lead to deeper manipulation, such as the favoritism used in triangulation to create division.
Malign: Influencing others through deceitful or coercive means for selfish gain and at the expense of others' well-being.
None visible.
Toxicity
Toxicity
A persistent pattern of harmful behaviors and interactions that degrade trust, social safety, and dignity. It manifests through manipulation, exclusion, blame-shifting, and a lack of accountability, creating a climate of fear, confusion, and emotional churn. Unlike simple conflict or disagreement, toxicity is defined by pervasive and ingrained culture-norms that devalue individuals or groups.
At its core, toxicity thrives on power imbalances, fostering conditions where dissocial behaviors are tolerated and rewarded. The result is an environment where self-preservation takes precedence over both professional performance and human decency.
At its core, toxicity thrives on power imbalances, fostering conditions where dissocial behaviors are tolerated and rewarded. The result is an environment where self-preservation takes precedence over both professional performance and human decency.
Slight defensiveness but generally professional.
Group Dynamics
Group Dynamics
The patterns of interaction and relationships within a group, including how roles, behaviors, and communications affect the group's function and cohesion. Healthy group dynamics feature trust, camaraderie, and loyalty.
Her struggle to assert herself may lower her standing within the group's hierarchy.
Prosocial Rating: 8/10
Prosocial
Behaviors that are positive, constructive, and intended to benefit others. These actions help build healthy relationships, foster cooperation, and promote well-being.
Prosocial expressions:
- Emotional Empathy
- Boundary Recognition
- Compassion / Kindness
- Helping / Support / Altruism
- Fairness / Reciprocity / Justice
- Honesty / Candor / Authenticity
- Respect / Decency
- Humility
Prosocial expressions:
- Emotional Empathy
- Boundary Recognition
- Compassion / Kindness
- Helping / Support / Altruism
- Fairness / Reciprocity / Justice
- Honesty / Candor / Authenticity
- Respect / Decency
- Humility
Attempts to explain and address concerns constructively.
Dissocial Rating: 2/10
Dissocial
Behaviors that are negative, harmful, and destructive to relationships and social harmony. These actions often involve aggression and a disregard for the well-being of others.
Dissocial expressions:
- Manipulation
- Boundary Violation
- Emotional Fuel Harvesting
- Contempt / Entitlement / Superiority
- Ingratiation / Sycophancy
- Derogation / Exclusion
- Blame / Scapegoating
- Undermining / Sabotage
- Hostility / Antagonism
- Intimidation / Coercion
- Humiliation / Cruelty
- Parasitism / Exploitation
Dissocial expressions:
- Manipulation
- Boundary Violation
- Emotional Fuel Harvesting
- Contempt / Entitlement / Superiority
- Ingratiation / Sycophancy
- Derogation / Exclusion
- Blame / Scapegoating
- Undermining / Sabotage
- Hostility / Antagonism
- Intimidation / Coercion
- Humiliation / Cruelty
- Parasitism / Exploitation
Defensiveness might be perceived negatively by superiors.
Brian T.
Assertion of Control
Assertion of Control
The act of employing the tactics of influence, social pressure, gatekeeping, authority, leverage, or coercion to shape the perceptions and behavior of others.
These assertions can be either constructive or destructive - for example, advocating for a scapegoated colleague in a positive manner, or using control to undermine and dominate others.
These assertions can be either constructive or destructive - for example, advocating for a scapegoated colleague in a positive manner, or using control to undermine and dominate others.
Brian implicates Iliana's team directly.
Emotional Fuel Harvesting
Emotional Fuel Harvesting
A dissocial behavioral pattern in which individuals deliberately provoke emotional responses - both positive and negative - from others. This compulsive behavior serves to shore up a constantly disintegrating sense of self by confirming their impact on others, often at the expense of those being targeted.
Positive Emotion Harvesting: Seeking attention, praise, or admiration to reinforce beliefs of one's relevance, entitlement, and superiority.
Negative Emotion Harvesting: Provoking responses such as frustration, anger, sorrow, and fear to reinforce one's sense of strength, superiority, and control. This form of harvesting is often characterized by behaviors like gaslighting, passive-aggressiveness, and deliberate antagonism, with the harvester deriving satisfaction from the emotional turmoil they induce.
Key Characteristics:
Exploitation of Vulnerabilities: Emotional triggers are often exploited, using knowledge of others' values or insecurities to elicit desired reactions.
Impact on Others: Those targeted may feel emotionally consumed (e.g. sucked dry) and coerced into responding in ways that serve the harvester's needs.
Power Dynamics: Occurs more often in environments with imbalanced power dynamics, where targets feel compelled to avoid conflict and harvesters face little accountability for their misdeeds..
Positive Emotion Harvesting: Seeking attention, praise, or admiration to reinforce beliefs of one's relevance, entitlement, and superiority.
Negative Emotion Harvesting: Provoking responses such as frustration, anger, sorrow, and fear to reinforce one's sense of strength, superiority, and control. This form of harvesting is often characterized by behaviors like gaslighting, passive-aggressiveness, and deliberate antagonism, with the harvester deriving satisfaction from the emotional turmoil they induce.
Key Characteristics:
Exploitation of Vulnerabilities: Emotional triggers are often exploited, using knowledge of others' values or insecurities to elicit desired reactions.
Impact on Others: Those targeted may feel emotionally consumed (e.g. sucked dry) and coerced into responding in ways that serve the harvester's needs.
Power Dynamics: Occurs more often in environments with imbalanced power dynamics, where targets feel compelled to avoid conflict and harvesters face little accountability for their misdeeds..
Raises concerns that project himself as vigilant.
Humility
Humility
The quality of being modest and respectful, recognizing one's limitations, and valuing the contributions of others without seeking to dominate.
Lacks humility, his comments are exigent and critical.
Emotional Empathy
Emotional Empathy
The capacity to deeply connect with and experience the emotions of others. Different than behavioral or cognitive empathy, emotional empathy goes beyond simply recognizing what someone is feeling, it's actually experiencing similar emotions in response to their situation.
Focused on the project's success, not team welfare.
Rivalry
Rivalry
Fueled by comparison and external validation, rivalry is the drive to achieve superiority over others through domination and devaluation.
Unlike healthy competitiveness - which centers on self-improvement and personal excellence - rivalry thrives on undermining others to elevate oneself. Rooted in envy, it perceives another's success as a personal loss.
Unlike healthy competitiveness - which centers on self-improvement and personal excellence - rivalry thrives on undermining others to elevate oneself. Rooted in envy, it perceives another's success as a personal loss.
His approach is competitive, calling attention to ignored risks.
Power Dynamics
Power Dynamics
The underlying forces that influence how power is distributed and exercised within relationships or groups, shaping interactions through influence, authority, and control over access to resources.
Power dynamics significantly impact individual agency, group decision-making, and overall outcomes, determining who holds influence and how conflicts are resolved.
An individual's footing within the power hierarchy - whether secure or insecure - significantly affects their behavior and interactions. Those with secure footing experience confidence and stability, enabling them to take risks, collaborate, and advocate for others, while those with insecure footing may adopt defensive strategies and resort to appeasement or manipulation to maintain their position.
Power dynamics significantly impact individual agency, group decision-making, and overall outcomes, determining who holds influence and how conflicts are resolved.
An individual's footing within the power hierarchy - whether secure or insecure - significantly affects their behavior and interactions. Those with secure footing experience confidence and stability, enabling them to take risks, collaborate, and advocate for others, while those with insecure footing may adopt defensive strategies and resort to appeasement or manipulation to maintain their position.
Clearly leveraged to highlight Iliana's team's shortcomings.
Bias and Discrimination
Bias and Discrimination
Bias is an unrecognized prejudice that leads to skewed beliefs and attitudes, creating blind spots in judgment.
When biases influence behavior, they result in discrimination - unfair treatment that limits opportunities and outcomes for certain individuals or groups.
Discrimination can also be intentional, not just the product of unconscious biases.
When biases influence behavior, they result in discrimination - unfair treatment that limits opportunities and outcomes for certain individuals or groups.
Discrimination can also be intentional, not just the product of unconscious biases.
There is an implicit bias against Iliana's team.
Manipulation (Benign and Malign)
Manipulation
The act of guiding others' emotions, perceptions, or actions to achieve desired outcomes, usually without the target's awareness.
Benign: The use of inconspicuous, seemingly harmless tactics to influence or control, often with hidden self-serving intentions. These actions appear innocuous but can lead to deeper manipulation, such as the favoritism used in triangulation to create division.
Malign: Influencing others through deceitful or coercive means for selfish gain and at the expense of others' well-being.
Benign: The use of inconspicuous, seemingly harmless tactics to influence or control, often with hidden self-serving intentions. These actions appear innocuous but can lead to deeper manipulation, such as the favoritism used in triangulation to create division.
Malign: Influencing others through deceitful or coercive means for selfish gain and at the expense of others' well-being.
Borderline malign in undermining another team to project competence.
Toxicity
Toxicity
A persistent pattern of harmful behaviors and interactions that degrade trust, social safety, and dignity. It manifests through manipulation, exclusion, blame-shifting, and a lack of accountability, creating a climate of fear, confusion, and emotional churn. Unlike simple conflict or disagreement, toxicity is defined by pervasive and ingrained culture-norms that devalue individuals or groups.
At its core, toxicity thrives on power imbalances, fostering conditions where dissocial behaviors are tolerated and rewarded. The result is an environment where self-preservation takes precedence over both professional performance and human decency.
At its core, toxicity thrives on power imbalances, fostering conditions where dissocial behaviors are tolerated and rewarded. The result is an environment where self-preservation takes precedence over both professional performance and human decency.
Potentially creating a negative environment with accusatory language.
Group Dynamics
Group Dynamics
The patterns of interaction and relationships within a group, including how roles, behaviors, and communications affect the group's function and cohesion. Healthy group dynamics feature trust, camaraderie, and loyalty.
Averse, promoting division within the group.
Prosocial Rating: 2/10
Prosocial
Behaviors that are positive, constructive, and intended to benefit others. These actions help build healthy relationships, foster cooperation, and promote well-being.
Prosocial expressions:
- Emotional Empathy
- Boundary Recognition
- Compassion / Kindness
- Helping / Support / Altruism
- Fairness / Reciprocity / Justice
- Honesty / Candor / Authenticity
- Respect / Decency
- Humility
Prosocial expressions:
- Emotional Empathy
- Boundary Recognition
- Compassion / Kindness
- Helping / Support / Altruism
- Fairness / Reciprocity / Justice
- Honesty / Candor / Authenticity
- Respect / Decency
- Humility
Rational points but delivered in a confrontational manner.
Dissocial Rating: 8/10
Dissocial
Behaviors that are negative, harmful, and destructive to relationships and social harmony. These actions often involve aggression and a disregard for the well-being of others.
Dissocial expressions:
- Manipulation
- Boundary Violation
- Emotional Fuel Harvesting
- Contempt / Entitlement / Superiority
- Ingratiation / Sycophancy
- Derogation / Exclusion
- Blame / Scapegoating
- Undermining / Sabotage
- Hostility / Antagonism
- Intimidation / Coercion
- Humiliation / Cruelty
- Parasitism / Exploitation
Dissocial expressions:
- Manipulation
- Boundary Violation
- Emotional Fuel Harvesting
- Contempt / Entitlement / Superiority
- Ingratiation / Sycophancy
- Derogation / Exclusion
- Blame / Scapegoating
- Undermining / Sabotage
- Hostility / Antagonism
- Intimidation / Coercion
- Humiliation / Cruelty
- Parasitism / Exploitation
His approach is critical and highlights division.
Claire O.
Assertion of Control
Assertion of Control
The act of employing the tactics of influence, social pressure, gatekeeping, authority, leverage, or coercion to shape the perceptions and behavior of others.
These assertions can be either constructive or destructive - for example, advocating for a scapegoated colleague in a positive manner, or using control to undermine and dominate others.
These assertions can be either constructive or destructive - for example, advocating for a scapegoated colleague in a positive manner, or using control to undermine and dominate others.
Aligns herself with Brian's criticism.
Emotional Fuel Harvesting
Emotional Fuel Harvesting
A dissocial behavioral pattern in which individuals deliberately provoke emotional responses - both positive and negative - from others. This compulsive behavior serves to shore up a constantly disintegrating sense of self by confirming their impact on others, often at the expense of those being targeted.
Positive Emotion Harvesting: Seeking attention, praise, or admiration to reinforce beliefs of one's relevance, entitlement, and superiority.
Negative Emotion Harvesting: Provoking responses such as frustration, anger, sorrow, and fear to reinforce one's sense of strength, superiority, and control. This form of harvesting is often characterized by behaviors like gaslighting, passive-aggressiveness, and deliberate antagonism, with the harvester deriving satisfaction from the emotional turmoil they induce.
Key Characteristics:
Exploitation of Vulnerabilities: Emotional triggers are often exploited, using knowledge of others' values or insecurities to elicit desired reactions.
Impact on Others: Those targeted may feel emotionally consumed (e.g. sucked dry) and coerced into responding in ways that serve the harvester's needs.
Power Dynamics: Occurs more often in environments with imbalanced power dynamics, where targets feel compelled to avoid conflict and harvesters face little accountability for their misdeeds..
Positive Emotion Harvesting: Seeking attention, praise, or admiration to reinforce beliefs of one's relevance, entitlement, and superiority.
Negative Emotion Harvesting: Provoking responses such as frustration, anger, sorrow, and fear to reinforce one's sense of strength, superiority, and control. This form of harvesting is often characterized by behaviors like gaslighting, passive-aggressiveness, and deliberate antagonism, with the harvester deriving satisfaction from the emotional turmoil they induce.
Key Characteristics:
Exploitation of Vulnerabilities: Emotional triggers are often exploited, using knowledge of others' values or insecurities to elicit desired reactions.
Impact on Others: Those targeted may feel emotionally consumed (e.g. sucked dry) and coerced into responding in ways that serve the harvester's needs.
Power Dynamics: Occurs more often in environments with imbalanced power dynamics, where targets feel compelled to avoid conflict and harvesters face little accountability for their misdeeds..
Aligns with Mike's expected critique of Iliana.
Humility
Humility
The quality of being modest and respectful, recognizing one's limitations, and valuing the contributions of others without seeking to dominate.
Suggests improvements without attacking directly.
Emotional Empathy
Emotional Empathy
The capacity to deeply connect with and experience the emotions of others. Different than behavioral or cognitive empathy, emotional empathy goes beyond simply recognizing what someone is feeling, it's actually experiencing similar emotions in response to their situation.
Lacks depth in considering Iliana's team's challenges.
Rivalry
Rivalry
Fueled by comparison and external validation, rivalry is the drive to achieve superiority over others through domination and devaluation.
Unlike healthy competitiveness - which centers on self-improvement and personal excellence - rivalry thrives on undermining others to elevate oneself. Rooted in envy, it perceives another's success as a personal loss.
Unlike healthy competitiveness - which centers on self-improvement and personal excellence - rivalry thrives on undermining others to elevate oneself. Rooted in envy, it perceives another's success as a personal loss.
Supports a critical stance, aligning with Brian.
Power Dynamics
Power Dynamics
The underlying forces that influence how power is distributed and exercised within relationships or groups, shaping interactions through influence, authority, and control over access to resources.
Power dynamics significantly impact individual agency, group decision-making, and overall outcomes, determining who holds influence and how conflicts are resolved.
An individual's footing within the power hierarchy - whether secure or insecure - significantly affects their behavior and interactions. Those with secure footing experience confidence and stability, enabling them to take risks, collaborate, and advocate for others, while those with insecure footing may adopt defensive strategies and resort to appeasement or manipulation to maintain their position.
Power dynamics significantly impact individual agency, group decision-making, and overall outcomes, determining who holds influence and how conflicts are resolved.
An individual's footing within the power hierarchy - whether secure or insecure - significantly affects their behavior and interactions. Those with secure footing experience confidence and stability, enabling them to take risks, collaborate, and advocate for others, while those with insecure footing may adopt defensive strategies and resort to appeasement or manipulation to maintain their position.
Reinforces hierarchical critique.
Bias and Discrimination
Bias and Discrimination
Bias is an unrecognized prejudice that leads to skewed beliefs and attitudes, creating blind spots in judgment.
When biases influence behavior, they result in discrimination - unfair treatment that limits opportunities and outcomes for certain individuals or groups.
Discrimination can also be intentional, not just the product of unconscious biases.
When biases influence behavior, they result in discrimination - unfair treatment that limits opportunities and outcomes for certain individuals or groups.
Discrimination can also be intentional, not just the product of unconscious biases.
Implicit bias against Iliana's team.
Manipulation (Benign and Malign)
Manipulation
The act of guiding others' emotions, perceptions, or actions to achieve desired outcomes, usually without the target's awareness.
Benign: The use of inconspicuous, seemingly harmless tactics to influence or control, often with hidden self-serving intentions. These actions appear innocuous but can lead to deeper manipulation, such as the favoritism used in triangulation to create division.
Malign: Influencing others through deceitful or coercive means for selfish gain and at the expense of others' well-being.
Benign: The use of inconspicuous, seemingly harmless tactics to influence or control, often with hidden self-serving intentions. These actions appear innocuous but can lead to deeper manipulation, such as the favoritism used in triangulation to create division.
Malign: Influencing others through deceitful or coercive means for selfish gain and at the expense of others' well-being.
Mild benign manipulation to highlight procedural issues.
Toxicity
Toxicity
A persistent pattern of harmful behaviors and interactions that degrade trust, social safety, and dignity. It manifests through manipulation, exclusion, blame-shifting, and a lack of accountability, creating a climate of fear, confusion, and emotional churn. Unlike simple conflict or disagreement, toxicity is defined by pervasive and ingrained culture-norms that devalue individuals or groups.
At its core, toxicity thrives on power imbalances, fostering conditions where dissocial behaviors are tolerated and rewarded. The result is an environment where self-preservation takes precedence over both professional performance and human decency.
At its core, toxicity thrives on power imbalances, fostering conditions where dissocial behaviors are tolerated and rewarded. The result is an environment where self-preservation takes precedence over both professional performance and human decency.
Slightly toxic by creating further pressure.
Group Dynamics
Group Dynamics
The patterns of interaction and relationships within a group, including how roles, behaviors, and communications affect the group's function and cohesion. Healthy group dynamics feature trust, camaraderie, and loyalty.
Promotes an atmosphere of critique and accountability.
Prosocial Rating: 4/10
Prosocial
Behaviors that are positive, constructive, and intended to benefit others. These actions help build healthy relationships, foster cooperation, and promote well-being.
Prosocial expressions:
- Emotional Empathy
- Boundary Recognition
- Compassion / Kindness
- Helping / Support / Altruism
- Fairness / Reciprocity / Justice
- Honesty / Candor / Authenticity
- Respect / Decency
- Humility
Prosocial expressions:
- Emotional Empathy
- Boundary Recognition
- Compassion / Kindness
- Helping / Support / Altruism
- Fairness / Reciprocity / Justice
- Honesty / Candor / Authenticity
- Respect / Decency
- Humility
Provides constructive criticism.
Dissocial Rating: 6/10
Dissocial
Behaviors that are negative, harmful, and destructive to relationships and social harmony. These actions often involve aggression and a disregard for the well-being of others.
Dissocial expressions:
- Manipulation
- Boundary Violation
- Emotional Fuel Harvesting
- Contempt / Entitlement / Superiority
- Ingratiation / Sycophancy
- Derogation / Exclusion
- Blame / Scapegoating
- Undermining / Sabotage
- Hostility / Antagonism
- Intimidation / Coercion
- Humiliation / Cruelty
- Parasitism / Exploitation
Dissocial expressions:
- Manipulation
- Boundary Violation
- Emotional Fuel Harvesting
- Contempt / Entitlement / Superiority
- Ingratiation / Sycophancy
- Derogation / Exclusion
- Blame / Scapegoating
- Undermining / Sabotage
- Hostility / Antagonism
- Intimidation / Coercion
- Humiliation / Cruelty
- Parasitism / Exploitation
Aligns with a critical tone, which might be perceived as unsupportive.
Raj D.
Assertion of Control
Assertion of Control
The act of employing the tactics of influence, social pressure, gatekeeping, authority, leverage, or coercion to shape the perceptions and behavior of others.
These assertions can be either constructive or destructive - for example, advocating for a scapegoated colleague in a positive manner, or using control to undermine and dominate others.
These assertions can be either constructive or destructive - for example, advocating for a scapegoated colleague in a positive manner, or using control to undermine and dominate others.
Positions his support strategically to realign the group.
Emotional Fuel Harvesting
Emotional Fuel Harvesting
A dissocial behavioral pattern in which individuals deliberately provoke emotional responses - both positive and negative - from others. This compulsive behavior serves to shore up a constantly disintegrating sense of self by confirming their impact on others, often at the expense of those being targeted.
Positive Emotion Harvesting: Seeking attention, praise, or admiration to reinforce beliefs of one's relevance, entitlement, and superiority.
Negative Emotion Harvesting: Provoking responses such as frustration, anger, sorrow, and fear to reinforce one's sense of strength, superiority, and control. This form of harvesting is often characterized by behaviors like gaslighting, passive-aggressiveness, and deliberate antagonism, with the harvester deriving satisfaction from the emotional turmoil they induce.
Key Characteristics:
Exploitation of Vulnerabilities: Emotional triggers are often exploited, using knowledge of others' values or insecurities to elicit desired reactions.
Impact on Others: Those targeted may feel emotionally consumed (e.g. sucked dry) and coerced into responding in ways that serve the harvester's needs.
Power Dynamics: Occurs more often in environments with imbalanced power dynamics, where targets feel compelled to avoid conflict and harvesters face little accountability for their misdeeds..
Positive Emotion Harvesting: Seeking attention, praise, or admiration to reinforce beliefs of one's relevance, entitlement, and superiority.
Negative Emotion Harvesting: Provoking responses such as frustration, anger, sorrow, and fear to reinforce one's sense of strength, superiority, and control. This form of harvesting is often characterized by behaviors like gaslighting, passive-aggressiveness, and deliberate antagonism, with the harvester deriving satisfaction from the emotional turmoil they induce.
Key Characteristics:
Exploitation of Vulnerabilities: Emotional triggers are often exploited, using knowledge of others' values or insecurities to elicit desired reactions.
Impact on Others: Those targeted may feel emotionally consumed (e.g. sucked dry) and coerced into responding in ways that serve the harvester's needs.
Power Dynamics: Occurs more often in environments with imbalanced power dynamics, where targets feel compelled to avoid conflict and harvesters face little accountability for their misdeeds..
Highlights his extra efforts to gain recognition.
Humility
Humility
The quality of being modest and respectful, recognizing one's limitations, and valuing the contributions of others without seeking to dominate.
Demonstrates humility in acknowledging teamwork.
Emotional Empathy
Emotional Empathy
The capacity to deeply connect with and experience the emotions of others. Different than behavioral or cognitive empathy, emotional empathy goes beyond simply recognizing what someone is feeling, it's actually experiencing similar emotions in response to their situation.
Displays empathy towards Iliana's team.
Rivalry
Rivalry
Fueled by comparison and external validation, rivalry is the drive to achieve superiority over others through domination and devaluation.
Unlike healthy competitiveness - which centers on self-improvement and personal excellence - rivalry thrives on undermining others to elevate oneself. Rooted in envy, it perceives another's success as a personal loss.
Unlike healthy competitiveness - which centers on self-improvement and personal excellence - rivalry thrives on undermining others to elevate oneself. Rooted in envy, it perceives another's success as a personal loss.
Slightly competitive in highlighting extra efforts.
Power Dynamics
Power Dynamics
The underlying forces that influence how power is distributed and exercised within relationships or groups, shaping interactions through influence, authority, and control over access to resources.
Power dynamics significantly impact individual agency, group decision-making, and overall outcomes, determining who holds influence and how conflicts are resolved.
An individual's footing within the power hierarchy - whether secure or insecure - significantly affects their behavior and interactions. Those with secure footing experience confidence and stability, enabling them to take risks, collaborate, and advocate for others, while those with insecure footing may adopt defensive strategies and resort to appeasement or manipulation to maintain their position.
Power dynamics significantly impact individual agency, group decision-making, and overall outcomes, determining who holds influence and how conflicts are resolved.
An individual's footing within the power hierarchy - whether secure or insecure - significantly affects their behavior and interactions. Those with secure footing experience confidence and stability, enabling them to take risks, collaborate, and advocate for others, while those with insecure footing may adopt defensive strategies and resort to appeasement or manipulation to maintain their position.
Aims to balance the hierarchical discourse.
Bias and Discrimination
Bias and Discrimination
Bias is an unrecognized prejudice that leads to skewed beliefs and attitudes, creating blind spots in judgment.
When biases influence behavior, they result in discrimination - unfair treatment that limits opportunities and outcomes for certain individuals or groups.
Discrimination can also be intentional, not just the product of unconscious biases.
When biases influence behavior, they result in discrimination - unfair treatment that limits opportunities and outcomes for certain individuals or groups.
Discrimination can also be intentional, not just the product of unconscious biases.
None apparent.
Manipulation (Benign and Malign)
Manipulation
The act of guiding others' emotions, perceptions, or actions to achieve desired outcomes, usually without the target's awareness.
Benign: The use of inconspicuous, seemingly harmless tactics to influence or control, often with hidden self-serving intentions. These actions appear innocuous but can lead to deeper manipulation, such as the favoritism used in triangulation to create division.
Malign: Influencing others through deceitful or coercive means for selfish gain and at the expense of others' well-being.
Benign: The use of inconspicuous, seemingly harmless tactics to influence or control, often with hidden self-serving intentions. These actions appear innocuous but can lead to deeper manipulation, such as the favoritism used in triangulation to create division.
Malign: Influencing others through deceitful or coercive means for selfish gain and at the expense of others' well-being.
Minor benign manipulation.
Toxicity
Toxicity
A persistent pattern of harmful behaviors and interactions that degrade trust, social safety, and dignity. It manifests through manipulation, exclusion, blame-shifting, and a lack of accountability, creating a climate of fear, confusion, and emotional churn. Unlike simple conflict or disagreement, toxicity is defined by pervasive and ingrained culture-norms that devalue individuals or groups.
At its core, toxicity thrives on power imbalances, fostering conditions where dissocial behaviors are tolerated and rewarded. The result is an environment where self-preservation takes precedence over both professional performance and human decency.
At its core, toxicity thrives on power imbalances, fostering conditions where dissocial behaviors are tolerated and rewarded. The result is an environment where self-preservation takes precedence over both professional performance and human decency.
None evident, focuses on constructive support.
Group Dynamics
Group Dynamics
The patterns of interaction and relationships within a group, including how roles, behaviors, and communications affect the group's function and cohesion. Healthy group dynamics feature trust, camaraderie, and loyalty.
Aims to support and realign the team.
Prosocial Rating: 8/10
Prosocial
Behaviors that are positive, constructive, and intended to benefit others. These actions help build healthy relationships, foster cooperation, and promote well-being.
Prosocial expressions:
- Emotional Empathy
- Boundary Recognition
- Compassion / Kindness
- Helping / Support / Altruism
- Fairness / Reciprocity / Justice
- Honesty / Candor / Authenticity
- Respect / Decency
- Humility
Prosocial expressions:
- Emotional Empathy
- Boundary Recognition
- Compassion / Kindness
- Helping / Support / Altruism
- Fairness / Reciprocity / Justice
- Honesty / Candor / Authenticity
- Respect / Decency
- Humility
Provides constructive support.
Dissocial Rating: 2/10
Dissocial
Behaviors that are negative, harmful, and destructive to relationships and social harmony. These actions often involve aggression and a disregard for the well-being of others.
Dissocial expressions:
- Manipulation
- Boundary Violation
- Emotional Fuel Harvesting
- Contempt / Entitlement / Superiority
- Ingratiation / Sycophancy
- Derogation / Exclusion
- Blame / Scapegoating
- Undermining / Sabotage
- Hostility / Antagonism
- Intimidation / Coercion
- Humiliation / Cruelty
- Parasitism / Exploitation
Dissocial expressions:
- Manipulation
- Boundary Violation
- Emotional Fuel Harvesting
- Contempt / Entitlement / Superiority
- Ingratiation / Sycophancy
- Derogation / Exclusion
- Blame / Scapegoating
- Undermining / Sabotage
- Hostility / Antagonism
- Intimidation / Coercion
- Humiliation / Cruelty
- Parasitism / Exploitation
Slight self-serving elements but overall positive.
Final Analysis:
The interactions in this professional meeting revolve around performance accountability, with a strong emphasis on control, competitiveness, and hierarchical dynamics imposed by Mike R. While some participants follow a more supportive or constructive route, the overall tone remains rivalrous. Emotional empathy is limited, and bias is inherent in the criticisms faced by Iliana's team. The dynamics showcase the complexities of maintaining professional standards while negotiating interpersonal relationships within a team.
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